I am going to get a little ‘deep’ today.
Our world is spinning faster than ever before. There was once a very simpler time out there. Life was much harsher, far more brutal, definitely shorter, but life these days is way more complex. I am quite sure that if our forefathers could see what we deal with today, they would run for the hills. I have had this Bible verse on my heart for quite some time and I am finally ready to get it out of my mind and into yours. So as we deal with all of these things that pull us in so many different directions we need to remember:
A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like a cancer in the bones. Proverbs 14:30
I can’t remember a day that I haven’t logged into Facebook and seen somebody airing their dirty laundry. People these days are using social media for sharing all of their otherwise personal problems and most times are looking for support from their virtual world. I use Facebook. I choose very carefully what I put out there for the world to see. What makes me sad is that people, in general, are forgetting that what they put online just simply will never go away and can come back to bite you in the butt.
I get it when you get lousy service from a merchant and you want others to be aware so that they don’t have the same bad experience, but since when is it ok to virtually yell at a friend, or a virtual friend so that other people get to hear you yell. We are not going to change back to the world without social media so we should learn how best to use it.
With most of the western world posting away about so many things, please take the time to pay attention how other people’s posts make you feel. Whether you are aware or not, each thing we see online stays with us and can really haunt us if we let it.
If you look at fitness models with their six packs and that makes you hate your jiggly tummy. You need to fix that. Fixing it comes in a couple of ways. You can stop staring at what makes you so uncomfortable by removing them from your feed. You can begin an exercise routine that will rid you of some of the jiggles. You can change your eating habits to lose a few extra pounds. Or, spend some time looking inward and finding out why somebody else’s body makes you feel so poorly.
When you see somebody’s pictures of them coming home from their trip of a lifetime and you feel so broke, again, what is it that makes you feel so bad? Are you mad at that person for going away? Are you feeling left behind? Are you ready to make a change in your own position in life so that you can go away to your trip of a lifetime? What is it about that person’s trip that upsets you? It may be time to figure it out.
We need to remember that there will always be somebody else out there that is… younger, fitter, richer, has a nicer car, has a better job, great skin,… fill in the blank. But now that we can see it on social media, it’s hard to avoid it. So don’t, it’s time to come to terms with it.
Having a peaceful heart is up to you and you alone. It really is a choice. It may be a tough thing to do and you may have to work at it every single day. But what is your option?
Do you really want to be grumpy all the time? Do you want to always feel that twinge of jealousy every time you go online? Of course not, nobody really does.
Next time you go online, do some inner research.
- How do you feel when you see…?
- How does that person’s rants make you feel?
- Does that person’s posts always make you feel awful?
- Who’s posts make you smile?
- Do you generally feel good after being online or not?
- Are you jealous of people you have actually never met in person?
- Is it time to do an online purge of things look at?
- Are there websites that make you feel good?
It’s really time to make your online world as healthy as you want your actual world to be.
My faith helps me understand that circumstances don't dictate my happiness, my inner peace. – Denzel Washington