Pressure to Fit In

If there is one thing I learned in high school that is a part of my life everyday it's that…you have to do things for YOU!

No one else. Want to lose weight? Learn more? Be successful? Inspire/give back? Great! But make sure that you are doing this for you!

When I was in high school, I felt the huge pressure of having to be that hot and fit girl. I worked my ass off at times to get into shape…but I never realized what I had all along. I look back at pictures now and wonder “why I was so unhappy with my body”, and it’s because I wasn’t doing it for myself. I was doing it for those guys I imagined I would be good enough for and for girls to accept me more.

If anything…I was damaging myself while trying to be better. I had myself convinced that I had to be a certain way and if I wasn’t then I wasn’t good for anything. I soon learned through the people I surrounded myself with that, the girls judged me no matter what shape I was, especially if I was in good shape because they envied what they weren't willing to work for, and boys are boys…It comes down to the right boy liking me for who I am.

Times get brutal in our lives and pressure is put upon us and we are expected to be a certain way. This is a very well known discussion that I don’t necessarily believe needs a ton of attention because guess what…

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, SMART, LOVED, ADMIRED, AND MADE IN THE LORD’S IMAGE.

And I know that you have been told this at least once…now it’s time to start believing it!

Here are a few tips that may help you:

  1. Remove/confront those around you that put the pressure to be a certain way that isn’t yourself
  2. Have a reality check with yourself…are you really all those negative things that get thrown out there or are they excuses to hold you back from living your life
  3. And lastly…do you make an effort to love yourself as well as others?

Smile and know that you are not alone and you were not put on this earth to ever do things all on your own.

Stand up tall, take a deep breathe and do what you need to do.

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