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How Do I Stop Giving Up

Believe in yourself quote. Stop Giving Up. Q4fit.com
Believe in yourself quote. Stop Giving Up. Q4fit.com


That’s it I give up.  I just don’t want to do this anymore.  

I don’t know how many times I have said that.  I don’t say it lightly.  When this comes out of my mouth I totally mean it.  And I know I have said it too many times, about too many things.  Yet, I know for a fact that I will say it again even though I don’t want to. So, how do I fix that?  

How do I stop giving up?  

One way for sure is to stop giving up and just concede a little.  Take a break instead of stopping.

We, as a rule, tend to go all out for most things.  The whole idea of pacing yourself or taking a look at rest just doesn’t seem to be something most people do.  Taking a break or a rest is seen as a weakness.  This is a big lie.

We are not machines.  We are made to rest after we work, so why is rest seen as a weakness.  I am really not sure, but it is.  Maybe the real issue is that we don’t know how to take a rest and then when the rest is over, get back at it.  We rest, feel the weakness creep in, and concede to that feeling and quit.

The other thing we don’t tend to do is really look at our progress in something and then realize that we need to change what we have been doing.  Years ago when we were growing one of our businesses, it started with only a few clients and then grew into a few staff, then to an actual out-of-the-house office, then more staff, a bigger office, and more clients, larger budgets and you see the trend.  As we grew, our needs grew.  We outgrew our bookkeeper, our accountant, our actual office, our everything.  Our personal growth is the same.

We need to realize that there is a reason we don’t do the same things now that we did in high school.  We may have some of the same friends but not likely all of them.  We have new habits, new wants, new needs, new goals.  We have different hairstyles, hopefully, do our make up differently, we hopefully are not wearing the same clothes as way back in the good old days, so its ok that our routines may change.

We, Doug and I, started getting our healthy act together over six years ago.  Most days I regret not starting sooner, but then there are days when I just want to go back to the sloth on the couch eating junk and being ok with that.  Sometimes it is just too hard to keep track of food and activity.  Sometimes it is too ugly getting up so early to get a work out in.  Sometimes, I just want to eat anything I can get my hands on.

But, that is all ok.  We need to shake things up.  There is a reason that a lot of nutrition experts and weight loss professionals now agree that a “reward or cheat” meal is an essential part of the process.  It is just how we are made.  Too much discipline is just that, too much, for most of us.

If what you are doing is not something that you can sustain for any length of time, you will eventually quit.  As long as you don’t quit forever, that is ok too.

We shook up our workout routine in the fall and I thought that I could handle the ‘new’ routine.  But, I now know that I can’t.  So, after a few months, I am back at it.  It felt like I quit, but I didn’t.  I needed the time to do some self-reflection.  I needed to reevaluate what I needed and wanted and to look at whether what I had been doing was the right thing for me.  Apparently, I needed the change and I wasn’t even aware of it.

So if you get to the point where you are ready to throw in the towel, maybe just keep it tucked away.

The race isn’t over until you have breathed your last breath, so there is still time to reach your goal.


Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul. – Douglas MacArthur


My Olympic Dream

My Olympic Dream Q4fit.com
National flags from Olympic countries

Are We Really Communicating?

social media the new communication tools. but are we really communicating

Do you know why I write this blog?  I don’t mean today’s post, I mean the blog as a whole. Do you care?  I hope it’s because you like the great info that I give you.  I hope it’s the research that I have found for you.  I hope it’s the insight from my own experiences trying to lose weight.  I actually hope that you are still reading this.

I was sitting beside my husband the other day watching him scroll on his phone liking pics on Instagram and I said to him, “did you even read what that was about or did you just click it because of who it was?”  He admitted to just clicking.

Unfortunately for most of us, that is the case.  We see pics we like and we click.  We like this business, person, or account, so we click.  We click because we think we will go back later and look at what we clicked and actually read that post.  But do we ever really do that?

The world of social media has changed how we do and see just about anything.  

If we are sitting somewhere and find a person who is not on their phone, do we wonder why?  Did their phone die?  Are they out of data?  Or even, why are they just sitting there looking at people?  Back in the old days before we walked around with our phones, that is just what we did.  We talked to strangers.  We would watch other peoples’ babies and smile.  We would feel sad when we saw someone sad.  We actually shared little bits of other people’s lives even if only for a moment.

It was interaction without invasion.  What has happened to that?  Does that workout even count if we didn’t post it all over all of our accounts?  Facebook, Instagram, twitter and the list is endless.  We wonder why someone doesn’t actually answer their phone when we may just use our phone for calling.  But that is because they didn’t answer their text or email from us.

We are now in a world that is perceived as social without actually talking to a person or having anything to do with them.  We have “friends” that we never see in front of us.  We don’t actually use our voice to communicate, we think things, type them, and expect people to understand the voice in our head that they never heard.

Although our messages are put out there, are we really communicating?  

Well, communicating is a two-way street, so if there is no feedback, then nope we are not.  We are just yelling at our screens hoping somebody else hears us.  This is the problem with social media.  It really isn’t as social as it was meant to be.

Why am I babbling on about this?  Because there are people who truly should be having face to face time and are not getting it because they are filling their time with screen time.  When we have less human time and more screen time, we start to lose our ability to actually be part of a community.  We become isolated.  We actually become lonely although our feeds are full.

Please be careful when you are looking to get out there and begin to interact with humans again.   

  • Choose your humans carefully.  
  • They should have the same motivation and should be so excited to meet you and support you.  
  • They should inspire and challenge you.  
  • They should inform you and learn from you.  
  • They should never make you feel less than the amazing person that you are.  
  • They should be honored that you chose to spend time with them.


Now, as my Mom would say, GO OUTSIDE AND PLAY!

But just in case you still want to visit with people online, we are there, check us out.  We will also be in your email box if you want us to be there.  We will be waiting online just for you.  

We like you 🙂


We live in a digital world, but we're fairly analog creatures. Omar Ahmad


The Secret to Weight Loss

The Secret to Weight Loss
Watermelon in disguise is holding the secret to weight loss.

Today you are getting a kick in the pants.  

There is a ton of info on ways to get fit and healthy out there.  People post workout videos.  There are all sorts of recipes and how to cook videos everywhere.  I try to read as many of these as I think pertain to our readers and I watch probably too many of those videos.  But in all of this info, people get the great privilege to ask these ‘authoritative’ figures questions, which is great.  I keep hearing the same few questions from the people looking for answers.  The questions are quite similar and the responses are generally along the same lines but seem to me to be too kind which allows room for denial.

People, in general, ask for the secret to weight loss.  

They ask in several ways;

  • What is the best workout?  
  • What time is best to workout?  
  • How much should I eat?  
  • When should I eat?
  • How often should I eat?  
  • What is the best food to eat?  
  • What is the best food to avoid?  

The questions are endless, but all actually asking for the secret to weight loss.  I have the secret!!  You may have heard it before, but I haven’t heard it put out there in its simplest form.

 Here it is…..

  • The workout doesn’t really matter!
  • The number of carbs doesn’t matter!
  • How long you workout for doesn’t matter!
  • The amount of fat doesn’t matter!
  • The amount of sleep doesn’t matter!

What matters is the realization that you have NEVER accidentally eaten ANYTHING!!!

  • Your parents aren’t to blame.
  • You are not big boned.
  • Your sedentary job isn’t at fault.
  • Your spouse isn’t responsible.
  • How much you weighed as a child is now irrelevant.

The only one responsible for the calories you consume and use is YOU and only YOU.

Let that sink in just a moment…

Sure there may be all sorts of reasons why things have happened.  For example, I know that I am a stress eater.  It has taken me a lot of years to realize that, but it is true.  When I get stressed instead of dealing with things in any number of other ways, I tend to eat.  And I eat all the wrong things.  Yes, I can help it.  I would love to say “I can’t help it, that is just the way I am”  that may be true but the choice to go to the fridge or the panty is mine and mine alone.

I know people that eat their feelings all the time.  They are lonely, they eat.  They are sad, they eat.  They are overwhelmed, they eat.  They are bored, they eat.  They give up, they eat.  

It’s time to take responsibility and own what you eat and what you don’t eat and what you should eat.

Simply put, the next time you eat something, think about what you are eating first.  It will change the way you eat, move, and drink.  Then after that, choose whether it gets you closer to your goal or…


Now just the thought of eating ice cream puts pounds on me. – David Nail