As personal growth is difficult, sometimes painful, affects people around us, and hopefully makes us better people, why do we compare ourselves to people who we are not trying to emulate?
Human nature seems to make us compare ourselves with others. Not necessarily a bad thing unless it is destructive. With social media no longer a new thing, we are now in a state of ‘how do we use it for our good and not a destructive thing’. We are, more than ever, bombarded with images of how we should dress, how we should look, what we should drive, how should we spend our time. Then we are also hit with other people’s unwanted opinions.
Whether you are a person of faith or not, a well delivered message is meant to resonate with you. If you attend business functions and have sat trying to stay awake after a lousy lunch, you know what I am talking about. A great message gets you so excited. It will make you think, a lot. It will make you dwell on how to make changes in your own world to make sure you are not making more mistakes and to make sure you are being the best you can be.
So now that I am writing every day, I am always thinking about what my next post is and whether this situation, or that thought would make a good post. Sunday, as I was sitting in church listening to one of our young pastors, his message, which was delivered beautifully, became a powerful thought process for me. Not only did his message hit me between the eyes as it pertained to me, but the more I thought about it, I knew that I needed to write about it.
The message this weekend was about, a person who should have been confident, powerful, had everything going his way, but then he became a wreck because he spent too much time comparing himself to others. Destructive. It’s crazy that a story so old is completely relevant today. We are a culture of comparison.
We should be happy our friend got a new car, not jealous. We should be proud that someone else just got a promotion and we are still waiting for ours. We should cheer on somebody who is losing weight even though we aren’t losing any. We should embrace the person that just booked the vacation of a lifetime and we can’t afford any time off.
Let’s become a culture of HOORAYS, GOOD FOR YOU’S, and I’M SO PROUD OF YOU’S!!
We should stop comparing ourselves to anybody that is not doing or being what we want. We need to stop worrying about other people's’ opinion and focus on what is important to ourselves. If you want to compare yourself to others, then do it with the mindset that you are looking to them as somebody to aspire to be like. But keep in mind the negative self talk is harmful.
So let’s be the change;
Wow, she looks great, good for her!
I am so happy they got a new car, good for them!
I will work hard for my promotion, too!
Success breeds success!
Be proud to have successful friends!
This world of ours… must avoid becoming a community of dreadful fear and hate, and be, instead, a proud confederation of mutual trust and respect. Dwight D. Eisenhower