How many times have you restarted something? How many times have you tried to get the same thing done but with a different plan? Have you ever just thought about something and you just can’t even stomach that feeling of failure yet again? I totally have! If everyone was honest, they would admit that they have too. That feeling of not having accomplished a goal for a really long time can be sometimes just too heavy to carry. So I ask why do we still want to accomplish that ‘thing’? And why have we not succeeded yet?
Obviously, there are as many reasons why a goal is not accomplished as there are goals to reach. But, aside from outside circumstances getting in our way, the single most impactful reason that goals are not reached is, in my opinion,…….YOUR WHY ISN’T BIG ENOUGH!
I have talked about your ‘why’ before, Find Your Why, We all have a why, without a why, nothing gets done. Sometimes your why is because you must do it. Sometimes it's because it’s your job to do it. But that is not what I am talking about today.
Let’s say you want to lose weight. Most of us in our western culture do. That is a fact because 60% of us are overweight. Ok, so you want to lose weight, why? Really, why? Because your doctor told you to? Because you have a class reunion and you don't look like you did in high school? Because you can’t fit into that pair of pants anymore without a whole lot of strain? Again, there are tonnes of reasons. But, yet again, why?
This is really an important question because if your why doesn’t make you cry, then your why simply isn’t strong enough.
I don’t care what other people will tell you, losing weight is hard. I have struggled with it my whole adult life and I will think about my weight and size for the rest of my life. I won’t always battle it, but I have come to the conclusion that on my own, I eat more than I use and if I don’t pay attention, I will put on weight again.
But if you don’t spend time thinking about your why, you will likely never succeed. You may have little victories. You may achieve some of your goals. You may even reach that pivotal goal, but if you why doesn’t punch you in the face, and become just that real for you, you won’t be able to maintain that goal weight.
I know this sounds awful and you don’t want to have to spend the rest of your life counting calories, weighing food, wearing a step counter and saying no thank you to every invite out to eat and drink. I don’t want that either. And that is why your why needs to get up and shake you to the core.
Your why, yours, not mine, not your dad, husband, sister, doctor, boss, friend,…., your why MUST be so strong that you want to get up a few minutes early to hit the gym. It must be so strong that you learn to enjoy drinking water. It must be so powerful that the feeling of satisfaction is enough at the end of a meal instead of the feeling of opening that top button on your pants. Your why needs to make you cry for joy as you watch yourself progress toward that end goal. Your why must be so powerful that other people’s criticism has no impact on you and you can just smile knowing how good you feel on the inside, because your goal is within reach. Your why is the push you need.
You are worth all of it.
You are your own why.
Remember if you need somebody else to validate your why, send me a note. I will be your best advocate and be your supporter. You can do it! I believe in you!
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. – Carol Burnett